The benefits of limited time spent online

A mother, whose daughter had regular access to a computer tablet, has warned that extended time spent online can distract children from important tasks and hinder the development of crucial social skills, like in-person communication.

It can also disrupt sleep habits, leading to hyperactivity when they should be getting the rest they need.

"Despite our good intentions to limit our preschoolers' online time, the fact is that cell phones and iPads make for the best childminders ever," she admitted.



Good and bad

Jessé de Kock is a psychological counsellor whose expertise is focused on adolescents. She said children are exposed to digital devices and technology at an early age.

Online time can offer benefits, such as facilitating communication and access to information.

She warned, however, that while early exposure can enhance their digital literacy and technological skills, it may also lead to excessive screen time, which can have negative effects on a young person's physical and mental wellbeing.

It may lead to behavioural issues and social withdrawal. It can also create unrealistic expectations about body image and popularity, leading to feelings of inadequacy and low self-esteem.



Online privacy

De Kock said most primary school children may not fully understand the potential risks associated with sharing personal details online, making them vulnerable.

She urged parents to actively participate in their child's online activities, monitor their internet usage and ensure they have appropriate content filters and privacy settings in place.

"Platforms specifically designed for children, with age-appropriate content and enhanced privacy settings, can provide a safer online experience.”



‘Lead by example’

She advised parents to set clear guidelines and boundaries. They should also establish rules regarding when and for how long children can use electronic devices or access the internet. "Lead by example. Be mindful of your screen-time habits and model healthy behaviour."

Parents should talk to their children about the potential risks and benefits of spending time online.

"Creating a safe space where children feel comfortable discussing any issues they encounter online is advised. They should encourage children to engage in a variety of offline activities such as sports, hobbies, reading and spending time with friends and family," she said.

This helps children to discover and pursue their interests beyond the screen, providing alternatives to keep them engaged and entertained. "Establish certain areas or times in the home where electronic devices are not allowed, such as during meals or in bedrooms. This helps create a balance between online and offline activities and promotes better sleep hygiene and overall wellbeing."



The risks

Dalene Gous is a clinical psychologist with over 18 years of experience. Gous has a passion for helping individuals cope with life’s challenges.

She shared this true-life experience: "I have just returned from the hospital, where I talked to a young girl. She was recovering from losing all hope in life and drinking too many anti-epileptic pills that were available in her home as a prescription for a family member. The tipping point of this sorry condition was that she had a fight with her boyfriend, also the father of the baby she has, who promised to take her out that night. But he didn’t show up and she couldn’t reach him over texts or calls. They met a few years ago through Instagram...".

Gous cautioned that this is one of the real-life repercussions of immature children who are left to their own devices.

Just like the girl she visited, young individuals can get entangled in a web of sex and lies, from which they will feel trapped and powerless to escape.

"Yes, the internet is not all bad, and we can learn a lot through social media. But the risks are also extremely high, and it is our responsibility, as parents, to raise our children to become mature screen and/or internet users," she said.